{"id":2533,"date":"2014-10-14T10:29:29","date_gmt":"2014-10-14T08:29:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/?p=2533"},"modified":"2014-10-14T10:29:29","modified_gmt":"2014-10-14T08:29:29","slug":"v-hlavni-roli-laska-sexualita-a-vase-zkusenosti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/v-hlavni-roli-laska-sexualita-a-vase-zkusenosti\/","title":{"rendered":"V hlavn\u00ed roli l\u00e1ska, sexualita a\u2026 va\u0161e zku\u0161enosti"},"content":{"rendered":"

V\u00a0obdob\u00ed puberty se objevuj\u00ed tak\u00e9 prvn\u00ed l\u00e1sky, vztahy a\u00a0zku\u0161enosti s\u00a0vlastn\u00ed, uv\u011bdomovanou sexualitou<\/a>. Role mu\u017ee\/\u017eeny, partnera\/partnerky nab\u00fdv\u00e1 na velk\u00e9m v\u00fdznamu. Pro v\u00e1s, rodi\u010de, to znamen\u00e1 dal\u0161\u00ed novou obavu: \u201eCo kdy\u017e se moje d\u00edt\u011b nech\u00e1 n\u011bk\u00fdm vyu\u017e\u00edt?\u201c, \u201eCo kdy\u017e se bude tr\u00e1pit?\u201c, \u201eCo kdy\u017e vl\u00edtne do pr\u016f\u0161vihu?\u201c. \u00a0Ale \u010deho se vlastn\u011b boj\u00edte?<\/p>\n

Pokud jste s\u00a0d\u00edt\u011btem o\u00a0sexu mluvili, pov\u00eddali si s\u00a0n\u00edm o\u00a0tom, jak\u00e1 jsou rizika, o\u00a0antikoncepci nebo sexu\u00e1ln\u011b p\u0159enosn\u00fdch nemocech, ud\u011blali jste dost pro to, aby se nic zl\u00e9ho nestalo. To, \u017ee va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b v\u00a0obdob\u00ed dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed zah\u00e1j\u00ed <\/b>sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed<\/a>\u00a0<\/b>\u017eivot<\/b><\/a>, je p\u0159irozen\u00e1 a\u00a0zdrav\u00e1 v\u011bc.<\/b> Pokud jste tohle t\u00e9ma doma neuzav\u0159eli jako tabu a\u00a0s\u00a0d\u00edt\u011btem ho prob\u00edrali, je pro v\u00e1s nejlep\u0161\u00ed volbou spol\u00e9hat na to, \u017ee to samo zvl\u00e1dne nejl\u00e9pe, jak m\u016f\u017ee. Klidn\u011b otev\u00edrejte debaty na t\u00e9ma sexu pr\u016fb\u011b\u017en\u011b<\/b>, krom\u011b toho, \u017ee pozn\u00e1te l\u00e9pe postoje sv\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte, m\u016f\u017ee v\u00e1s to i\u00a0sbl\u00ed\u017eit.<\/p>\n

V\u00a0tomto kontextu je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 tak\u00e9 to, jak moc je d\u00edt\u011b ovlivniteln\u00e9 a\u00a0jak siln\u00e9 je jeho sebev\u011bdom\u00ed. Podporujte ho a\u00a0sm\u011brujte ho k\u00a0tomu, aby v\u011b\u0159ilo vlastn\u00edm n\u00e1zor\u016fm, p\u0159\u00e1n\u00edm a\u00a0my\u0161lenk\u00e1m. T\u00edm ho ochr\u00e1n\u00edte nejl\u00e9pe.<\/p>\n

M\u00e1te-li n\u011bjak\u00e9 pochybnosti a\u00a0v\u00edte, \u017ee jste n\u011bco zanedbali, pak to sv\u00e9mu potomkovi klidn\u011b p\u0159iznejte a\u00a0pokuste se otev\u0159\u00edt diskuzi znovu.<\/b> D\u016fv\u011bru a\u00a0z\u00e1jem vzbud\u00edte zejm\u00e9na tehdy, kdy\u017e zapoj\u00edte sv\u00e9 vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti z\u00a0ml\u00e1d\u00ed. Nebojte se b\u00fdt naprosto otev\u0159en\u00ed a\u00a0pravdiv\u00ed. V\u017edy\u0165 p\u0159esn\u011b to vlastn\u011b po sv\u00fdch d\u011btech chcete. Doba, kdy jste pro n\u011b byli svat\u00e9 nedotknuteln\u00e9 autority, je nen\u00e1vratn\u011b pry\u010d. Novou autoritu si nez\u00edsk\u00e1te bojem o\u00a0p\u0159evahu, p\u0159\u00edkazy a\u00a0z\u00e1kazy. Jedin\u00e9, co funguje, je b\u00fdt autentick\u00fd, d\u00e1vat d\u016fv\u011bru a\u00a0z\u00e1rove\u0148 jasn\u011b, \u010diteln\u011b a\u00a0smyslupln\u011b vymezovat a\u00a0VYSV\u011aTLOVAT hranice, tedy podporovat zodpov\u011bdnost.<\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00a0prvn\u00edmi vztahy se samoz\u0159ejm\u011b tak\u00e9 m\u016f\u017ee objevit ot\u00e1zka, jestli va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b m\u016f\u017ee p\u0159iv\u00e9st partnera dom\u016f. \u00a0Rozhodn\u011b se tomu nebra\u0148te, budete tak m\u00edt mo\u017enost ho poznat a\u00a0ud\u011blat si lep\u0161\u00ed obr\u00e1zek o\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b sv\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte. Nav\u00edc postavit se proti tomu, koho si va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b vybralo, v\u00e1s v\u00a0jeho o\u010d\u00edch stav\u00ed do dost negativn\u00ed role. I\u00a0kdy\u017e se v\u00e1m pubert\u00e1ln\u00ed l\u00e1sky m\u016f\u017eou zd\u00e1t bezv\u00fdznamn\u00e9, pro va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b znamenaj\u00ed v\u0161echno. Berte je tedy v\u00e1\u017en\u011b a\u00a0neshazujte je, zaj\u00edmejte se o\u00a0to, jak je d\u00edt\u011b pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1, a\u00a0bu\u010fte mu r\u00e1dcem i\u00a0oporou.<\/p>\n

M\u016f\u017ee p\u0159ij\u00edt i\u00a0citliv\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ot\u00e1zka \u2013 \u201eM\u016f\u017ee u\u00a0n\u00e1s m\u016fj partner p\u0159espat?\u201c, M\u016f\u017eu p\u0159espat j\u00e1 u\u00a0n\u011bj?\u201c<\/b>. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b, v\u00a0tomto kontextu se nab\u00edz\u00ed t\u00e9ma intimnost\u00ed a\u00a0v\u011bku, kdy jsou v\u00a0po\u0159\u00e1dku a\u00a0kdy nikoli. Kdy\u017e chce d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159espat u\u00a0kamar\u00e1da\/kamar\u00e1dky, zd\u00e1 se v\u00e1m to bezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Ale je to v\u017edycky tak? V\u00a0tomto p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b je dobr\u00e9 spojit se s\u00a0jeho\/jej\u00edmi rodi\u010di a\u00a0zeptat se, jestli o\u00a0v\u0161em v\u011bd\u00ed a\u00a0jestli je to pro n\u011b v\u00a0po\u0159\u00e1dku. Zakazovat to d\u011btem nen\u00ed moc dobr\u00fd n\u00e1pad, sp\u00ed\u0161 se sna\u017ete p\u0159\u00e1tele sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed poznat a\u00a0b\u00fdt s\u00a0nimi v\u00a0kontaktu, pozv\u011bte je k\u00a0v\u00e1m dom\u016f, nechte je p\u0159espat atd.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e chce d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159espat u\u00a0partnera nebo on u\u00a0v\u00e1s, pak je dobr\u00e9 si s\u00a0d\u00edt\u011btem sednout, probrat to a\u00a0domluvit si pravidla.<\/b> D\u00edt\u011b by m\u011blo pochopit, \u017ee kdy\u017e mu to povol\u00edte, je to od v\u00e1s vst\u0159\u00edcn\u00fd krok a\u00a0od n\u011bj se o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1, \u017ee bude respektovat domluven\u00e1 pravidla. Dejte pravidl\u016fm v\u00e1\u017enost a\u00a0apelujte na zodpov\u011bdnost sv\u00e9ho d\u00edt\u011bte. Dejte mu jako podm\u00ednku, \u017ee nejd\u0159\u00edv mus\u00edte partnera osobn\u011b poznat. U\u017e to, \u017ee p\u0159ijde k\u00a0v\u00e1m do rodiny, je tak trochu d\u016fkaz toho, \u017ee m\u00e1 dobr\u00e9 \u00famysly. Ov\u011b\u0159te si tak\u00e9, \u017ee rodi\u010de toho doty\u010dn\u00e9ho\/doty\u010dn\u00e9 o\u00a0v\u0161em v\u011bd\u00ed a\u00a0souhlas\u00ed s\u00a0t\u00edm.<\/p>\n

Pokud budete d\u00edt\u011bti p\u0159esp\u00e1n\u00ed zakazovat, m\u016f\u017ee se st\u00e1t, \u017ee v\u00e1m bude lh\u00e1t a\u00a0p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost si stejn\u011b najde<\/b>. Pokud by se v\u00e1m jeho partner vylo\u017een\u011b nezd\u00e1l, pokuste se rozhodnut\u00ed trochu odd\u00e1lit a\u00a0poznat ho v\u00edc, l\u00e9pe. I\u00a0va\u0161e d\u00edt\u011b pak bude m\u00edt \u010das ud\u011blat si po\u0159\u00e1dn\u00fd obr\u00e1zek o\u00a0tom, s\u00a0k\u00fdm je.<\/p>\n

Nevid\u00edte-li jinou mo\u017enost ne\u017e to nedovolit, pak sv\u016fj z\u00e1kaz pe\u010dliv\u011b a\u00a0trp\u011bliv\u011b vysv\u011btlete<\/b> a\u00a0\u0159ekn\u011bte d\u00edt\u011bti, za jak\u00fdch podm\u00ednek by to bylo mo\u017en\u00e9. Nestavte se do pozice toho, kdo zakazuje v\u0161echno, va\u0161e role by m\u011bla b\u00fdt rozumn\u00e1, ochranitelsk\u00e1 a\u00a0otev\u0159en\u00e1.<\/p>\n

\u010cl\u00e1nek z\u00a0informa\u010dn\u00edho port\u00e1lu www.sancedetem.cz<\/a> p\u0159ipravila psycholo\u017eka Mgr. Milena Nov\u00e1kov\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Ach, ty hormony\u2026<\/a><\/p>\n

D\u011bti, dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed a rodi\u010de<\/a><\/p>\n

U\u017e zase n\u011bkde l\u00edt\u00e1<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

V\u00a0obdob\u00ed puberty se objevuj\u00ed tak\u00e9 prvn\u00ed l\u00e1sky, vztahy a\u00a0zku\u0161enosti s\u00a0vlastn\u00ed, uv\u011bdomovanou sexualitou. Role mu\u017ee\/\u017eeny, partnera\/partnerky nab\u00fdv\u00e1 na velk\u00e9m v\u00fdznamu. Pro v\u00e1s, rodi\u010de, to znamen\u00e1 dal\u0161\u00ed novou obavu: \u201eCo kdy\u017e se moje d\u00edt\u011b nech\u00e1 n\u011bk\u00fdm vyu\u017e\u00edt?\u201c, \u201eCo kdy\u017e se bude tr\u00e1pit?\u201c, \u201eCo kdy\u017e vl\u00edtne do pr\u016f\u0161vihu?\u201c. \u00a0Ale \u010deho se vlastn\u011b boj\u00edte?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3611,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"neve_meta_sidebar":"","neve_meta_container":"","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"","neve_meta_content_width":0,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"","neve_meta_disable_footer":"","neve_meta_disable_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2533","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-domelie-radi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2533"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2533\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3611"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.domelie.cz\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}